How to Have an Orgasm Without Ejaculating: Technique, Tips and Tricks (Tantra)
This article presents a short guide on how men can have orgasms without ejaculating. This is not an in-depth explanation but more of a quick guide and checklist on how to start. For more information on the technique for men of how to have an orgasm without ejaculating, you can check out these books by Mantak Chia: The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy How to Have an Orgasm Without Ejaculating Step 1: Take Control Over Your PC Muscle PC Muscle Control This is not a detailed anatomical explanation, but only gives you the information that you need to start out. For more information, you can read an anatomy book. Somewhere in your lower hip is a muscle called the pubococcygeus muscle. I will be referring to this muscle as the PC muscle. You can locate it by pressing between your balls and your anus and try to flex the muscle groups there. It is the one muscle that is hard and slightly bulging outwards. This muscle is able to hold back the ejaculation and makes sure that no ejaculate is going to shoot out when you orgasm. The technique on how to have an orgasm without ejaculating is not as simple as just flexing the PC muscle but flexing this muscle is a very essential part and you will struggle to have any success without training this muscle. Training the PC Muscle In order to learn how to have an orgasm without ejaculating, you have to make this muscle your best friend. And the best way to train this muscle is to flex and hold it. It takes some practice to flex and use this muscle, but it is the same muscle that you’re using when you stop peeing midway. It is also the same muscle that you use when you already have an erection and you’re trying to make your hard penis bounce upwards. There is a famous set of exercises called Kegel exercises. These are also used to train this muscle. Some even advocate using weights to train this muscle but I have not experimented with that and likely never will. Some people say that, when you go peeing, you can just start and stop peeing 50 times to train your PC muscle. Personally, I don’t do this but it is still a valid technique for you to try. My favorite way to train this muscle is simply to flex it all the time. I flex the PC muscle when I lie bad. I flex it when I’m working. I’m flexing it when I’m walking around outside and I’m flexing it when I go running or exercise. I really make the PC muscle my best friend. It’s the first thing I say hello to in the morning and the last thing I say goodnight to when I go to sleep. I don’t flex the PC muscle in short intervals but I just flex and hold it for as long as I can. This muscle is not like a bicep that you can train and it will just keep growing. It is a very moody and sensitive muscle. If your tummy feels heavy, your PC muscle might become very soft and weak. The same is true when you’re tired and exhausted. You can always do pushups with predictable results but your PC muscle might refuse at times if you are not paying attention to it. This is why my favorite way of training the PC muscle is to just hold it all the time and try to always have it in the back of my mind. Another benefit of doing that is that you’re always in a bit of a meditative and grounded state. You just become more focused on whatever you do. When you walk around while flexing your PC muscle, you’re more grounded. When you work while flexing your PC muscle, you’re more focused. Flexing the PC muscle doesn’t take much effort because it is a pretty small muscle. Just try to maximize flexing and holding your PC muscle for as much and long as possible throughout the day, every day. Step 2: Identify the Difference Between Orgasm and Ejaculation Orgasm vs Ejaculation: What Goes Around, Cums Around For men, there’s a difference between an orgasm and an ejaculation. They are often used synonymously, but they are not the same. The ejaculation refers to sperm being shot out of your penis. The orgasm describes the feeling around your penis (that very good sensation) that you’re getting as you are reaching your climax. It is usually the reason you want to masturbate or have sex in the first place. It is the payoff. Interestingly, the word ‘cum’ usually refers to both the orgasm and the ejaculation at the same time. This tells you a lot about how far our society has removed itself from this essential technique that every man should know about. The best way to separate the orgasm from the ejaculation is to masturbate and always stop right before the orgasm. We all know the point of no return when it is too late so you stop right before that. Really investigate this. The orgasm is entirely different from the ejaculation. In the beginning, you can ejaculate. But as you ejaculate, observe the difference. You usually enter the orgasm first and are in zero gravity among clouds of pleasure but the ejaculation is not there yet. It usually is quite delayed. Try to experiment. Observe the ejaculation. Try to delay it more. Try to flex your PC muscle. Try to use your mind and imagination to move the energy back. This phase is all about experimentation. Have fun with it. Just observe. Doing it Right The technique itself is very simple but the details can make it complicated. You simply masturbate until you reach the orgasm. You completely relax your entire body, PC muscle and other muscles as you enter the orgasm. You spend